Next, remember that it is not about you, it is about your child. With those two things in mind, you will have the motivation to ignore any inappropriate behavior from the other parent and choose to do the right thing.
What is the right thing when dealing with a difficult co-parent?
- Maintain a pleasant tone – watch those emails and texts!
- Do not engage in arguments. If the other parent says or writes something nasty, do not return the fire. Walk away and take a breath. When you are able, if it is necessary to reply, do so with neutral tone and maintain the point about the child. Do not add opinions or commentary on the other parent’s behavior. If it is not necessary to reply, don’t.
- If verbal communications are regularly argumentative or hostile, then only communicate in writing.
- Be flexible, just as you would prefer the other parent to be with you. But be mindful of whether your flexibility creates positive results for your child. If the other parent constantly asks to change the exchange time, and it is causing stress to your child, then stick to what you know is best for your child.