How Do I Protect My Children?

The most frequent source of harm to children during a divorce or parenting dispute is conflict.  It is the stress, pressure and pain children experience from fighting parents, especially when parents include children in the conflict.  For example, parents often believe it is the 'right thing to do' to 'tell the children the truth.'  While I am not exactly advising deception, telling children 'the truth' is most frequently a guise to simply complain about the other parent, to try to get the child to 'side' with one parent, to unburden oneself, etc.  So, one way to protect children is to leave them out of your relationship with the other parent.

If you have legitimate safety concerns about the other parent towards your children, it is about documentation.  Identify your concerns very specifically.  Relate those concerns to specific harm you feel may be a consequence of those concerns.  Keep a journal.

About Balkus Law

What began as a Family Law Practice expanded to include more services when our clients requested our assistance with other legal matters. We are dedicated to helping families through difficult transitions and finding solutions that work for our clients.


From aggressive and thoughtful litigation to private mediation, our firm has the experience and savvy to meet your needs - when you need it most.

Service Areas

We service clients who are facing legal conflicts in the states of New Hampshire and Massachusetts. Our most-serviced areas include Concord, Portsmouth, and Manchester NH, as well as the towns that lay within the following counties in New Hampshire: Belknap, Hillsborough, Merrimack, Rockingham, and Strafford.